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For someone looking to spice up their sex life, recommending bondage might seem a bit harsh. But, bondage comes in different forms. Today, we will be looking at something erotic, tasteful, and oh-so-hot. Even for people who usually have no interest in BDSM. In fact, categorizing Shibari (also known as Kinbaku) as a BDSM practice is not necessarily correct. Confusing, I know.
What the F is Shibari? How do you start? What do you need? I will shed light on all this, so stick with me. And, most importantly, I will also be sharing my personal first-time experiences with Shibari. Spoiler alert, this stuff led me to some of the most intense orgasms I have had in a while.
•What do you need to get started with Shibari?
What is Shibari?
Shibari is the ancient art of Japanese bondage. In fact, the word Shibari means “to tie” in Japanese.
The practice of Shibari evolved from Hojo-Jutsu, the martial art of restraining captives used from 1400 to 1700. As you may know, ancient samurais had quite the hard-on for the honor. So, naturally, they used symbolism and aesthetical ties when restraining captives. This was to respect and honor prisoners with high status.
Over time, the Japanese and the rest of the world discovered that intricately tied ropes on a naked human body can be…quite hot. So, over time Hojo-Jutsu evolved into the super hot bondage art we are discussing today.
Where did I hear about Shibari? From Netflix of all places. The reality show “Too Hot to Handle” featured a workshop on Shibari. I was hooked instantly…I got the gear, a camera, had some tutorials, talked with my husband. Now, all I had left to do was to wait for the weekend.
Why should you try Shibari?
I have always been naturally curious about all things sex. So, I am always on the look for new sensations and ways to build an even stronger sexual connection with my husband Adrien.
Shibari is a wonderful way of doing this. It is about the power play, excitement, trust, and beauty. All the components I want in a sexual relationship.
But, I know some of you are still wary of all things BDSM. So, let’s get a few misconceptions out of the way. Shibari is, above all, about aesthetics and spirituality. While the practice contains obvious elements of domination, real Shibari has nothing to do with sticky sex basements, humiliation, and sadism. This is precisely why I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Shibari for all couples. Regardless of age, orientation, or background.
And, to be frank, Shibari just feels great. It is hard to describe the sensations this practice will give you. But, trust me on this, if you two are open to the experience, rope bondage will give you an unforgettable erotic rush that will linger for weeks afterward.
In fact, the term “rope drunk” is sometimes being used to describe the euphoric and orgasmic state of a model after a Shibari session. Sounds hot? I know!
What do you need to get started with Shibari?
For starters, you need a willing partner that is open to exploring new sexual sensations. Trust, strong communication, some sizzling hot sexual chemistry, the right ambiance…and you are good to go.
Now that you have a hot yes from your significant other, let’s talk gear and tutorials. When I first heard of Shibari, I thought that erotic, silken ropes would be the best bet. Nope! Shibari ropes need to be firm yet comfortable on the skin. Jute and hemp ropes tick both the boxes. They feel good on bare skin, yet feel tight enough for super stimulating restraint play. I’ll make it even easier for you. This is the hemp rope from Lovehoney me and Adrien used.
Now that you have the rope, you also need some skills. Luckily, the web and Youtube are full of Shibari tutorials. For example, we used this for-beginners article for learning the ropes (pun intended) of Shibari. It contains GIF-s for tying your first Shibari knot, some in-depth intel on ropes, and safety precautions as well.
Looks like we are all set as far as compulsory stuff goes. Shibari is something you can tinker with. We went the whole nine yards and got candles, incense, and a camera for the night. But, as I said, this part is up to you and your tastes. As long as you have a partner and a rope, you can practice Shibari.
My experiences with Shibari
Japanese rope bondage is about imagination and aesthetics, so we looked up a few beginner-friendly knots and let our imaginations run wild. We started by tying my t*ts into lovely breast bondage. After this, we also tied ropes above and below my *ss. To finish things up, we also tied my hands (I was too timid to lose all mobility). My bondage rigger (husband Adrien) also lubed me up to give the session that special little spark.
The sensations were super intense right away, even though none of the ropes touched my genitals directly. Something about being at the total mercy of your partner…mmm. Plus, the strict movement of the hemp rope on bare skin. Whoa, even thinking about the memory gets me hot.
After finishing with the ropes, Adrien hungrily looked at my oily, shiny, bound body. This, of course, got me shivering in anticipation of things to come. But first, he took a few photos of my tied body. Minutes turned into half an hour…and, by now I was going crazy. I wanted the c*ck of my dear husband. After some teasing, I got what I wanted. I stayed tied while Adrien entered me…and I came at the first few strokes. Vaginal orgasms are not always on my menu…and they are never that fast and intense. Was it the excitement of trying something new? Did the tightness of the ropes play with my body? Was I just h*rny that day? Who knows.
What I do know is that this will not be my last time trying rope bondage. No sir!
So, if you are on the search for something new and exciting, try Shibari! I promise that it will be a night to remember.
