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Only 10 years ago merely speaking about sexual bondage was considered a massive taboo. This all changed due to the massive success of “50 Shades of Grey” by E.L. James. Not a book that I particularly like, but we will let it slide for now. Whatever expands the sexual horizons of the general population is worthy of praise.
After “50 Shades”, BDSM was in the consciousness of housewives, young adults, fashion, and even senior couples. The practice effectively moved out of dingy sex clubs and hardcore pornography. Of course, the sex toy industry had to react to this new trend. And, they did. Never before have we had such a wide selection of BDSM gear available. The variety of options can be overwhelming, especially for a beginner. Thus, we decided to put together a little buying guide for our readers.
By far the easiest way to get started is to buy a BDSM starter kit. The best BDSM starter kits are specifically put together with beginners in mind. Thus, the main keywords here are safety, safety, and more safety! In addition to choosing gear that is as safe as possible, you should also prefer products that are 100% body-safe and offer great value for money. Luckily, there are several great choices out there.
Without further ado, let’s get kinky and review the 7 best BDSM starter kits available in 2021:
- A Fifty-Shades Inspired BDSM Starter Kit – “Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit”
- Most luxurious – “ZALO & UPKO Doll Designer Collection Luxurious & Romantic Bondage Play Kit”
- Best Value – “Lovehoney All Tied Up Bondage Play Kit (8 Piece)”
- Best for First BDSM Session – “Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint”
- A Cheaper Alternative to the Zalo BDSM Kit – “Bondage Boutique Red Hot Passion Bedroom Bondage Kit” (6 Piece)”
- A BDSM Game for Beginners – “Lovehoney Bind Date Bondage Kit (8 Piece)”
- A 10-day BDSM Pleasure Set – “Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Overload 10 Days of Play Gift Set”
A Fifty-Shades Inspired BDSM Starter Kit – “Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit”
Why we love it: adjustable to any bed size, officially approved by the author of “50 Shades of Grey”, the set folds down to portable size
Check price at Lovehoney
No surprises here, a BDSM starter kit inspired by “Fifty Shades of Grey” just happens to be one of the most beginner-friendly choices available. It is rather basic, coming only with a blindfold and 4 padded cuffs. But, the devil is in the details. The cuffs are super comfortable and easy to adjust. Safety will be a priority for someone new to BDSM. And, these cuffs feel super safe and light. Plus, they will fit in any bed. Whether we are talking frathouse bunk or a King Size beast, these cuffs can be adjusted accordingly.
I do have one complaint, though. The aesthetics. When it comes to BDSM, aesthetics are super important. And…these cuffs and the blindfolds just don’t look that good. At least to me.
But, since we are talking about complete beginners to BDSM, aesthetics are not of immediate priority. Comfort, safety, and quality are the keywords for someone venturing into kink land for the first time. And, the “Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit” offers all these features.
Most luxurious – “ZALO & UPKO Doll Designer Collection Luxurious & Romantic Bondage Play Kit”
Why we love it: superb design, a storage case included, an all-inclusive BDSM starter kit
Check price at Zalo
Luxury meets comfort in this BDSM starter kit. Right off the bat, I can tell you that if the luxury aesthetic is something you want in your BDSM, this is your best bet. But, let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Allow me to explain this BDSM starter kit in greater detail.
The package comes with the following items:
- Storage case – Imitation leather, red velvet lining. Erotica with an edge.
- Leather thorn collar – Black and gold with some thorn motifs thrown in. A Victorian Gothic vibe.
- Chain leash – 39.4 inches in length. Enough for a variety of positions while also being just restrictive enough.
- Leather thorn handcuffs – Italian leather. The trademark rose/gold thorn motifs.
- Leather thorn whip – 24-karat gold-plated handle. This is a leather whip, so do not play with it on your first BDSM sessions. Best to have some idea on your boundaries before incorporating a leather whip into your play. It does look absolutely beautiful though.
- Rose ball gag – One of the most unique ball gags I have seen. But, as with the whip, a ball gag shouldn’t enter the picture during your first BDSM sessions. Let’s save the best for last, shall we?
As you might guess, this kit is pricier than others on this list. Still, it is easily one of the best BDSM starter kits for beginners. Whether you are a seasoned veteran of power-play or entirely new to BDSM, the superb design of this set is impossible to ignore. Domination, submission, and pure luxury. A mix of erotic gods.
Best Value – “Lovehoney All Tied Up Bondage Play Kit (8 Piece)”
Why we love it: includes sensory toys both for men and women, quick-release clip system, strapping will fit any bed size
Check price at Lovehoney
BDSM is all about the rush. Thus, some of you will want to take things beyond just being restrained. Even if this is your very first time. With the right BDSM starter kit, this is possible.
“All Tied Up Bondage Play Kit” is just enough to offer a variety of exciting BDSM sensations WITHOUT getting too intimidating for a complete beginner. It is an 8-piece set that has the staples – cuffs, straps, and a blindfold. All designed with nothing too hardcore in mind. But, you also have sensory toys thrown in the mix – a vibrating c*ck ring, nipple suckers, finger vibrator, and a flogger. Speaking of whipping – I wouldn’t recommend a powerful whip for beginners to BDSM. A flogger, though? Absolutely beginner-friendly.
As with most cheap BDSM starter kits, sacrifices are made in the design department. Still, for a beginner, safety reigns supreme. And, that is what you will get with this BDSM starter kit. Safe, but only just! Highly recommended for couples who want to start off their BDSM journey with something more than mere restraint play.
Best for First BDSM Session – “Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint”
Why we love it: budget-friendly choice, great for first-time BDSM play
Check price at Lovehoney
“Bound to Please” is the best-selling BDSM restraint on Lovehoney. And, for good reason. It is simple, yet effective. You get 4 latex-free restraints that are adjustable to any bed.
The maximum length of the restraints is 4ft2in. So, whether you want to roam (relatively) free or enjoy some good-old heavy constriction, these restraints will do. Considering that we are talking quality restraints that are entirely latex-free, this is also one of the most cost-effective deals currently available.
As with most cheap BDSM starter kits, the aesthetics are just alright. Nothing to write home about, nothing bad either. All things considered, I slightly prefer this kit over the “Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit”, as the cuffs do look and feel a bit better.
A Cheaper Alternative to the Zalo BDSM Kit – “Bondage Boutique Red Hot Passion Bedroom Bondage Kit” (6 Piece)”
Why we love it: a budget-friendly choice, a very beginner-friendly flogger included, best-in-class blindfold
Check price at Lovehoney
Bondage Boutique again. This time we have a BDSM starter kit that comes in sizzling black-red contrast. The entire set is designed with complete beginners to BDSM in mind. You have wrist cuffs that can be adjusted 6-10 inches in circumference and ankle cuffs that can be altered between 7-12 inches. So, plenty of room to maneuver if you wish to do so. The cuffs also use quick-release clips. So, if a participant feels overwhelmed, the release is super quick and efficient.
This is is a set with some little extra treats included. You also have a ball gag, a bondage strap, a blindfold, and a soft flogger included. Flogging is something that beginners are usually understandably wary of. Don’t be. A set like this one comes with a flogger that leans more on the ticklish side of things. And, even if you do want some spanking action, it will be low impact with a flogger like this. Absolutely nothing to be afraid of.
Again, we have a BDSM starter kit that is cheap, yet offers everything needed to give your bedroom romp that extra spice.
A BDSM Game for Beginners – “Lovehoney Bind Date Bondage Kit (8 Piece)“
Why we love it: includes a sexual card game and dice, great for beginners
Check price at Lovehoney
Getting into BDSM is so much easier if you just let Lady Luck decide on how far you can go. You see, the “Bind Date Bondage Kit” comes with a Kama Sutra card game and a pair of instructional sex dice. As kooky as it may sound, playing games is a wonderful way of breaking the ice before getting into BDSM. A few laughs go a long way in setting the mood right. And, the result will be a date night neither of you won’t forget for a while
In addition to the dice and the card game, this BDSM starter kit also includes the following items:
- A blindfold
- A feather tickler
- A bullet vibrator – Allow yourself to be tied and blindfolded. Get comfortable and enjoy that sexual tension. Then, let your partner alternate between using his c*ck, his hands, and this bullet vibrator. Thank me later.
- 4 x silky restraints for ankle and wrist binding
- A 4-way under-mattress strap system
All things considered, this BDSM starter kit is as cute as it is exciting. The tickler and the games for a few laughs. The “traditional” items to get a bit of intensity going. A great mix if you ask me. Whoever said that BDSM has to be dead serious was wrong.
A 10-day BDSM Pleasure Set – “Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Overload 10 Days of Play Gift Set“
Why we love it: includes sensory toys both for men and women, a unique and fun concept, officially approved by E. L. James
Check price at Lovehoney
The best BDSM starter kits have a unique twist to them. This one is no exception. Again, we are talking games. The kit comes with 10 “doors”, one for each night. Inside the doors, you will find various beginner-friendly BDSM products.
This time, I’m gonna make an exception by NOT listing everything you will find in these doors. Just check out the picture. Hopefully, not all of the items will be familiar to you. Some of the stuff included is not found in other BDSM starter kits in this list. Cough, cough…nipple clamps, kegel balls.
All things considered, this is the “50 Shades” BDSM kit done to perfection. The items are beautiful, high-quality, and offer a solid amount of variety. Plus, the concept of “one item each night” is a winner in its own right.
